I'm hearing a lot of teens getting pregnant lately.
Some of them are my friends and some of them are everyday people who I've randomly come across.
One of those people happen to be friend of mine who agreed to do an interview with me.
Her name is Kay Lynn and she's only 15 years old.
Me-"When did you find out you were pregnant?"
Kay Lynn-"When I was 4 weeks in because I'd missed my period by a week so...6 weeks ago today((January 12th, 2012))"
Me-"How did you react when you found out you were pregnant? Your only 15, you had to be terrified."
Kay Lynn-"I took 2 store bought tests at first and the first one was negative, so I felt fine. But there was a little bit of a second pink line on the other test and I started to get worried. When I finally went to the doctors and found out it was true I cried for about an hour"
Me-"so far, how has finding out your pregnant changed your life?"
Kay Lynn-"Oh god. I actually didn't expect it to change anything much until like 6-9 months and the birth but already SOOOO many things are different. Maybe it's because I'm showing early. The "pregnancy symptoms" are killing me, and my mood swings are making me the bitchiest person to be around ever. I also used to be a HUGE partier, and after spotting at my 6th week mark scared me, thinking it was a miscarrige, I've had to stop practically being the person I used to be."
Me-"Wow, that sounds terrifying honestly. What are your plans for you and the baby?"
Kay Lynn-"Well I'm not exactally in Disney Land. Um...I haven't really thought about any plans. I do know I want to keep it. I could never go through with an abortion without feeling bad, and adoption...I could never give up my baby after carrying him/her for roughly 9 months. I live in a house hold that could easily handle the struggles of having a new baby, so I figure once I hit my last trimester stuff will start falling in to place... Not the best plan, I know."
Me-"It's a plan. Does your family know about your pregnancy?"
Kay Lynn-"My older brother (32) knows, because he kept pointing out my weight gain until I snapped and told him. My real mom knows as well, but I'm having a hard time bringing myself to tell my grandparents (who I live with along with my real mom) because I haven't fully wrapped my head around it myself.."
Me-"At least you told half your family, it's a good start! How did they all react when you told them?"
Kay Lynn-"My brother is a major jokester, so he laughed obnoxiously loud and patted my back, "Good luck, Mommy. You're sure as hell gonna need it..." Were his exact words. But before he left to go back to his own house he left a note on my bed saying--and yes, I have the note in front of me now and am typing word for word haha--**I honestly can't tell you I know what you're going through because I have no idea. But you need to know that even though it probably seems hard right now, and will get harder, things always get worse before they get better and they WILL get better. Call me if you ever need me, or just text me. I love you." My mom....she was really sick when I told her so I think I got let off easy, she just looked at me for a long time and said, "I guess I started talking to you about sex too late, huh?" Neither reactions were really bad, but my moms made me feel like a terrible dissappointment..."
Me-"Wow, touching and yet sad all together. I honestly can't say I know what your going through, either. How is school going for you since you've gotten pregnant?"
Kay Lynn-"I never thought of it as either touching or sad. haha just reality. Um...I have a pregnancy app on my phone, and I'm one of the lucky--sarcastic--ones who have most of those shitty pregnancy symptoms. Fatigue. Headaches. Stuffy nose--didn't even know that was one until about two weeks ago. Morning sickness. Back pain. Dizzyness. Trouble sleeping. Lucky me. I don't get them all at once though, don't worry! Ha. Anyway, because of all those and my naturally slightly higher tempature now, my moms forced me home. I haven't gone to school in 3 weeks. So it's not going so well but i'm trying to catch back up from home."
Me-"Yeah, that sounds like most of the symptoms of pregnancy to me. Later in your trimester, you might get the food cravings and the frequent urges to urinate as well.
How did you become pregnant? like, were you using protection or anything?"
Kay Lynn-"I was on birth control, but I really hate swallowing pills so I only took it like for one week of each month, clearly that was a bad idea. And I was--I know this was bad--really drunk when I got pregnant. So I didn't give a shit weather the guy was using a condom or not. Which, clearly, he wasn't. He was pretty out of it himself, though."
Me-"I see. Deff a bad idea. You regret what happened?"
Kay Lynn-"Do I regret living and partying? Hell no. Do I regret being pregnant with my best friends baby? I regret my AGE, but I'll never regret my son or daughter...
Actually no, that's not true. I regret the drinking and smoking. It nearly killed my best friend, and I still worry like hell about her. And I wouldn't be pregnant at fifteen if I hadn't have been drinking. So yes, to some degree I do regret that."
Me-'Does your friend know it's his baby?"
Kay Lynn-"No. And I'm going to fucking keep it that way until he shapes the hell up and stops playing girls. "
Me-"If you don't mind my asking, what do you mean by "shape up"?"
Kay Lynn-"He's falling in to the same pattern all the kids in this town do. I mean, hey, it's a small town with not much to do. What else are we gonna do besides get high, get drunk, and sleep around, right? Honestly, I'm okay with that. I am NOT, however, okay with addiction of any sort if you're under the age of eighteen. It just means youve gone overboard. The other day he asked me if and I quote, "Your rents will let me smoke in the house, right? Im addicted. My mom understands." Um, no thank you. My house is very very nice. Upper class nice. My grandparents dont even let my 36 year old mother smoke in the house. AND, he plays girls like crazy. I don't want to get the typical, "Oh, ill be there for you and the baby" only to get lied to."
Me-" that's very understanding on why you wouldn't tell him. But have you thought that maybe telling him would maybe make him realize he needs to shape up and stop acting immature? "
Kay Lynn-"Yeah, I've considered it. But like I said, don't wanna get lied to. I'd rather just know ahead of time I'll have to do it all alone to begin with."
Me-"well then, do you intend to find out the sex of the baby?"
Kay Lynn-"Yes (: I really wanted a boy at first, but now I want a girl lol. I'm only ten weeks though, and I have to wait until 18 to find out the sex."
Me-" well you are deff almost there. did you want to say anything else to the readers?"
Kay Lynn-"Ah, I'd almost forgot this was for a blog. haha yes, I do have something else I wanna say; DONT DO DUMB SHIT, AND DONT GET PREGNANT! If you do, don't be ashamed of yourself, your belly, or your baby. Babies are gifts from god. And quit being so harsh on teen moms. We're not all dumb fuck-ups who will go nowhere in life."
Me-" I thank you for sharing your story with my blog, I'm sure readers will deff have a different look on teen mothers~"
Kay Lynn-"Sure hope so."
Being a teen mother can be hard. And yes, life changing. But in the end, you get a wonderful gift out of having a baby. Rather you plan it or not.
But it's still best to wait to have a baby. If you happen to get pregnant in your teens, nothing wrong with that. Not good, but it sure isn't bad.
So if you think your pregnant, go take a test and if it comes back positive, stop and take a deep breathe and relax. It isn't the end of the world. But always remember, protection!
Rather it's birth control or condoms. Protection is the key to success.
For more information on teen pregnancy you can visit Planned Parenthood
And for information on sex and how you can protect yourself,
you can visit
Itsyoursexlife.com
Much thanks to Kay Lynn for agreeing to do the interview and much luck to her and her baby.
And check back again for more updates on teen pregnancy and other topics that might just catch your eye.
Till then,
Keep rollin'.
